Big Brother Naija And The Pimping Of A Married Woman By Her Husband 

By Jesutega Onokpasa

My adorable daughter just drew my attention to something she witnessed on the presently running “Big Brother Naija” reality show, involving one of the participants called Kassia.

In the clip, the said Kassia is putting on leggings or tights (that’s if I’m correct, since I don’t really know much about women’s apparel) with her legs wide open in the presence of housemates, including at least one of whom is male.

I found it quite saddening that a married woman should conduct herself in such a decidedly inappropriate manner.

The said Kassia, I am made to understand is from Delta State and it is considered an abomination in our neck of the woods for a married woman to behave in such a manner.

Her husband, also a participant in the show, a certain Kelly Rae (these children just give themselves all kinds of weird names these days), who is also apparently from Delta State, is the one I blame for shaming his dear wife, treasure, princess and queen in such a most ungodly manner.

Law can often seem pretty surprising to nonlawyers.

So for instance, if a wife instigates, procures or, howsoever induces her husband to commit a crime, we hold both the husband and wife culpable.

Nevertheless, while we hold a husband and wife to be equal partners in holy matrimony, with respect to certain categories of crimes wherein which it is a husband that turned his wife rogue, we leave the wife alone and pounce on the husband as the real culprit.

This is because while men and women are most certainly created equal by God (“male and female, He created them”, Genesis 5:2) and a husband and wife are equal partners in a marriage (a marriage is, in law, deemed a contract between the couple), the husband is still the head of their household and leader of their union.

I recall the American senator, Lindsey Graham, once admonishing the rapper, Jay Z, against “pimping” his wife, the diva, Beyonce Knowles, and while I don’t often agree with Senator Graham, I was in total accord with him on that score.

The rate at which we keep losing our values in the modern world is something that ought to bother every well brought up person, who, in turn, wishes to bring up their children well.

I would not be surprised if tomorrow I heard that the said Kelly Rae had pressured his wife, Kassia, to go and sleep with another man if he calculated that such person would bring them opportunities to make money.

Of course, Kassia, being a woman, would be naturally reluctant to do that.

Unbeknownst to many of us men who like to think of women as prone to be loose, they are actually configured to tend to be faithful – if you belong to the gender that evolved a womb, you are by default extremely reluctant not to be able to identify who has fathered your children.

A young man like Kelly Rae, who is obviously and unfortunately obsessed with “making it”, might keep mounting pressure on her till she breaks and goes with the programme for peace to reign.

Except that she would find no peace because one day, the same money-hungry Kelly Rae, who pimped her, in the first place, would end up reminding her how she had once “prostituted” herself, skipping the part that it was at his relentless urging and godless request.

So once again I blame the young man, Kelly Rae, who has only proved himself to be a worthless article for a husband.

In standard jurisprudence, a pregnancy is evidence only of itself, and cannot, without more be evidence of the commission of adultery or fornication.

In order to prove sexual immorality, for instance, you just have to provide direct evidence separate from pointing to the mere fact of an unmarried woman being pregnant.

As such, you would just have to also provide the man she committed the adultery or similar act of immorality with.

I guess that’s why Our Sovereign Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ forgave the woman caught in adultery and asked her to go and sin no more, John 8:4.

While I expected much better from Kassia, as a married woman, it is still Kelly Rae, a man without shame, I must blame for taking his hustle to the extreme extent of abomination.

I don’t know if this world is coming to an end but I wouldn’t mind if Jesus comes this very afternoon.

God protect our children and set them aright for they are the one and only future we have.

Onokpasa, a lawyer, writes from Abuja.